Monday, March 5, 2012

On the follow back

A fellow blogger got their panties in a bunch because I didn't follow them back within two days.

The funny thing is though, that I actually was following him, just not publicly. I used to follow blogs through Blogger, but I've just found it easier to subscribe via RSS feed in Google Reader.

So, if you've followed my blog and think I'm not following you back, it's possible I am, just not using the public widget. Another thing to consider is the blogosphere is just as small as it is huge and I may already be following you with my real account.

Or it could be that I'm indeed not following you back. If that's the case, please don't take it personally. Maybe your blog is full of erotica that isn't my cup of tea. That doesn't mean that I don't like you as a person or that I don't appreciate you following me. I appreciate every person who takes time out of their busy schedule to read anything I have written. I sincerely do. I promised myself when I started this, however, that I wasn't going to fill my dash with content that I don't love just to make other people happy. I don't follow blogs and leave comments for the purpose of promoting myself -- in fact, I've only left two comments total since starting this blog almost two years ago -- if I follow someone, it's because their content appeals to me, period.

I appreciate and want to thank every single person who is reading my blog, whether you follow publicly, anonymously, or whatever. It makes me feel good that you are interested in what I have to say and are not just following because you want me to follow you back.

Having said all that, if you want me to follow you back, just ask and I probably will.

Thursday, March 1, 2012

It's a job, not a lifestyle (response to Curious Girl)

This comment was in my in-box this morning:

"Hey Tell All,

i am a 20-something year old interested in entering "the lifestyle". I came across your blog from happyendingz actually,but I feel like you are more of a person I can relate to/get advice from. I'm about to graduate from college and am living in a major city on the east coast.

I currently am a student and work part-time in the restaurant industry. I have seriously considered entering the lifestyle but honestly don't know anyone to talk to about it. I am really interested in talking to you more. Obviously, this is a total long shot as you have no idea who I am/I am have no idea who you are. Like I said, I am just looking for someone for advice/that I can talk to. My email address that I made is [REDACTED.]

I hope to hear from you!

Curious Girl"

Wow. Where to begin. First of all, why in the hell would you want to do this after graduating from college? I'm trying to get my degree right now, having to take two courses at a time while taking care of a family and household while working a normal job (just to keep my sanity) plus escorting two days a week, and I assure you that as soon as I graduate and get a job that will actually pay my bills, I will run as far away from this profession as I possibly can and never look back. It's not glamourous. Sure, it's entertaining at times and I have some regular clients that I don't mind seeing, but having to lie to my friends and family and constantly keeping my guard up is not exactly conducive to healthy, deep relationships. I don't recommend it.

If you really want the experience of it and have made your mind up, the best advice I can give you is to treat it like a job. It's not a "lifestyle." I've seen girls make escorting their life; it ruined all of them.

Another girl (I presume a girl, anyway) wrote to me last year asking about becoming an escort. You can read my response here.

I'm sorry but I can't email you because I don't want to help anyone become an escort, but I sincerely wish you all the best. Please be careful and don't be a stranger on the blog. Your comments are welcome anytime. XO

ETA: This is the Happyendingz she is referring to. It's the blog of an erotic masseuse. I've been reading CJ for the past year or so -- you might enjoy her, too.